REDIRECTING CHILDRENS’ BEHAVIOR
From Toddlers to Teenagers: A Positive Approach to Parenting
“Redirecting Children’s Behavior” is based on Adlerian psychology and is strongly influenced by the work of Rudolf Dreikurs, MD, author of the highly acclaimed book “Children: The Challenge.” The course was developed by Kathryn Kvols and Bill Reidler, founders of the Global Relationship Centers, Inc., and authors of the book “Redirecting Children’s Misbehavior,” along with Helen Hall.
Positive parenting is focused on developing a strong, deeply committed relationship between parent and child based on communication and mutual respect. Positive Parenting focuses on teaching children not just what but also why. Positive parenting means training children toward self-control.
There are three major components to positive parenting
- Rules and consequences are laid out, discussed often, and followed through.
- Parents focus on helping children internalize discipline, rather than obey orders based on fear of punishment, in order to develop self-discipline.
- Parents use active listening to understand children’s thoughts. This allows parents to correct misunderstandings or mistaken links of logic.
SOLUTIONS: POSITIVE PARENTING, A DEMOCRATIC APPROACH
In our fast-paced society, adults and children spend much of their time in separate environments. We all want to make the most of the time we have together, however, it can become difficult for us to give ourselves or get what we want from our relationships.
You can have the kind of relationship with your children you have dreamed of, and you can help them develop skills to become loving, motivated and successful adults.
What you can give children from this course:
- Encourage responsibility & initiative
- Enhance high self-esteem
- Develop good decision making skills
- Encourage resistance to peer pressure
- Promote cooperation and successful attitudes
What you can gain from this course:
- Reduce arguing, scolding and yelling
- Feel positive about your parenting skills
- Effectively promote behavior changes
- Establish agreements on discipline within your family
Who should take this course:
- Parents (expecting or having children of any age, from toddlers to teens), grandparents, aunts and uncles, teen-age baby-sitters.
- Teachers, Counselors, Nurses, Social Workers, or anyone who relates to children.
Five weekly classes are held for a total of 15 hours of instruction. This allows adequate time to practice and master the concepts and techniques. Weekly goals are set by each participant. Problems and successes are shared in a warm supportive environment.
- Understanding the child’s personality
- Learn to manage stress
- Reducing sibling rivalry and competition
- How to stop fights/ Using action-not words
- Developing healthy self-concepts
- Promoting cooperation and helpfulness
- Explore how parenting style affects children
- Teach children respect and responsibility
- Building high self-esteem and self-motivation
- Understand why a child misbehaves
- Intervention and corrective measures that work
- Find out how to build a child’s self-confidence
- Teach self-control and encourage self-quieting
- Apply natural and logical consequences
- Ways to hold children accountable for their actions
- How to handle and express feelings
- Punishment and reward vs. “Redirecting”
- “Redirecting” in the family
- Promoting agreement on discipline for couples
- Working together as parents
- Refine practical parenting skills
- Effective family communication
CHALLENGES FACING CHILDREN AND FAMILIES TODAY:
- The average child in America receives only 12.5 minutes per day in communication with his/her parents.
- On the average a child receives 400 negative comments compared to only 32 positive comments per day.
- In a study of children ages 1-12, the single most important determinant of children’s self-esteem is the perception of how much they are valued by their parents.
DO YOU RECOGNIZE ONE OF THESE CHILDREN?
- A child who demands to be the center of attention
- Siblings Who Fight
- The Bully Who Pushes Others Around
- The Whining Child Who Says “I Can’t”
- A toddler who has repeated temper tantrums
- A child who turns everything into a Power Struggle
- A teenager with an attitude
THIS COURSE IS FOR YOU IF YOU WANT TO:
- Focus on the problem without judging the child
- Resolve conflicts without power struggles
- Create “genuine encounters”, with children, away from the television
- Teach children to solve their own problems, offering them guidance when needed
- Replacing nagging, yelling, threats, bribes and guilt with effective, positive messages
- Manage personal stress to increase parenting effectiveness
- Assist children in becoming self-sufficient, socially responsible and self-confident
WHAT PEOPLE SAY:
This course is full of action. You don’t just sit and listen. We feel much more confident after practicing the skills.
I knew I wanted to parent differently than my parents. This course gave me the tools to be the parent I wanted to be.
We loved the changes we saw in our three children and in our relationship as a couple as we worked together to raise our children.
I have been easier on myself. I am encouraging more and nagging less. We are letting our daughter take more responsibility.
We almost didn’t take the course because of the time and cost, and we really weren’t having a crisis with our children. We’re so glad we invested in our relationships — we now have so many skills to positively manage future challenges.
I have been more patient, understanding and excited to listen to what my kids have to say. Because of my attention my kids have been really expressive. I looked forward each week to come to this class!
We liked the emphasis on practical application of principles that we had only thought about before.
The class activities helped us see the world through our children’s eyes. Now we’re firm and kind when we set limits.
This class was so helpful to me & my family that my son & I are best friends again, the sweet love that we used to share is back! I know the tools I learned in this class WORK! Now I have someone who helps me around the house ~ very interesting concept! I find that this course has helped me in all my relationships and has made my marriage better too. Thank you for all your love and support!
All Redirecting Children’s Behavior instructors are certified by the International Headquarters for Children and Families, Gainesville, Florida.